Where to Start

I do not claim to be an expert by any means but I had been through a lot with my parents and it was not always easy. I felt I did not have any resources to help me through this. Neither of my parents had to go through what I did. True, my mom did help care for her mother while she was dying (she passed too young). My mom had to make the decision to be apart from her husband (my dad) during my grandmother's illness. In hindsight I wish I had spoken with my mother more about what she went through while caring for her mother. Many of the circumstances were different but it may have given me a starting point. We are somewhat taught or learn from observation how to be a parent but how often do we learn how to care for our parents? I did not know where to start so I had to somehow create a beginning.